an cookiekopite :good luck cookiekopite. It's a good first step that your wife accepts that you want to be fucked, but a dildo is no match for good hard cock. Explain the your wife the benefit to her of having two cocks to enjoy - my wife loves to watch me having sex with other men, she watches and masturbates and insists that she be well fucked by our "sex guest" an he must cum inside her.
My massage therapist had a knack for finding hot guys with big cocks that were interested in fucking my ass. These guys had money and would pay extra just to flop me over her table and give my ass a good screwing. She loved watching me, take it in the ass.