Random thought/ advice
Random thoughts.......
If you have been on my page and read my blogs you would have seen that I have had problems with my sons mom in the past because she wouldn’t let me see my son. And I had to take her to court to get the right to see him. Fast forward about 5 years to 2020. We are on speaking terms and get along a whole lot better now. Even though she still have people in her family and friends including her mom and sister giving me the stank eye when they see my. They speak but I can tell they really don’t care about me because of her lies. It’s cool because I feel the same about them. Here’s the thing....I had our son this whole week for Spring break even though they’re not in school. when I went to pick him up Sunday she asked me if I wanted to come over for game day to play games and just hang out. I agreed. Me my our son and my sister and her 2 daughters came over. When we first got there her mom and sister spoke but I got the feeling they really didn’t want us there. We played games and the k**s played also. The next day she texted me like she also does to check on our son and we spoke and joked around a little. When she told me this.... I really like where we are with things and I am afraid for that to change. But I met someone. And it was really unexpected. But he’s a really great guy. I am not ready for him to meet the k**s yet but I think that’s coming in the near future. I’m not gonna sit here and lie Because I did want to see if we could work things out so I could see our son more. My thing is (1) why would she invite us(me our son, my sister and her k**s over) knowing she has a boyfriend? (2) also knowing that I really don’t care nor does her mom/sister care for me. If she would have told me all this before asking me to come over I would have said naw I’m good. Come to find out she wanted to spend time with our son but instead of asking if he could come over she Invited me over also knowing that I wanted it try to work stuff out. After she told me about her boyfriend she said this.... I hope this doesn’t change anything with us. I am so thankful we are where we are. This is what I always hoped it would be for Our son. For us to be able to do things together and get along and be friends. I said it wouldn’t but after I though about it that was foul because you don’t do stuff like that. She had me and my family sitting in her house with people who don’t care for me or my family. I stated tell her about herself but she wouldn’t listen to me anyway. So I’m gonna go back to like it was. I won’t be rude nor will I talk about her or her family our our son ,but when we speak it’s only about our son. I hate to be that way but she keep on doing foul stuff after I forgive her and enough is enough. I’m I wrong? How would y’all handle the situation
If you have been on my page and read my blogs you would have seen that I have had problems with my sons mom in the past because she wouldn’t let me see my son. And I had to take her to court to get the right to see him. Fast forward about 5 years to 2020. We are on speaking terms and get along a whole lot better now. Even though she still have people in her family and friends including her mom and sister giving me the stank eye when they see my. They speak but I can tell they really don’t care about me because of her lies. It’s cool because I feel the same about them. Here’s the thing....I had our son this whole week for Spring break even though they’re not in school. when I went to pick him up Sunday she asked me if I wanted to come over for game day to play games and just hang out. I agreed. Me my our son and my sister and her 2 daughters came over. When we first got there her mom and sister spoke but I got the feeling they really didn’t want us there. We played games and the k**s played also. The next day she texted me like she also does to check on our son and we spoke and joked around a little. When she told me this.... I really like where we are with things and I am afraid for that to change. But I met someone. And it was really unexpected. But he’s a really great guy. I am not ready for him to meet the k**s yet but I think that’s coming in the near future. I’m not gonna sit here and lie Because I did want to see if we could work things out so I could see our son more. My thing is (1) why would she invite us(me our son, my sister and her k**s over) knowing she has a boyfriend? (2) also knowing that I really don’t care nor does her mom/sister care for me. If she would have told me all this before asking me to come over I would have said naw I’m good. Come to find out she wanted to spend time with our son but instead of asking if he could come over she Invited me over also knowing that I wanted it try to work stuff out. After she told me about her boyfriend she said this.... I hope this doesn’t change anything with us. I am so thankful we are where we are. This is what I always hoped it would be for Our son. For us to be able to do things together and get along and be friends. I said it wouldn’t but after I though about it that was foul because you don’t do stuff like that. She had me and my family sitting in her house with people who don’t care for me or my family. I stated tell her about herself but she wouldn’t listen to me anyway. So I’m gonna go back to like it was. I won’t be rude nor will I talk about her or her family our our son ,but when we speak it’s only about our son. I hate to be that way but she keep on doing foul stuff after I forgive her and enough is enough. I’m I wrong? How would y’all handle the situation
vor 4 Jahren
I say this as one whose parents both did considerable and lasting damage in this regard. They didn't know they were doing it, and I'm pretty sure if people knew then what we know today about human development and the importance of the archtypal ch*ld-mother-father relationship, there would have been a whole lot less of that retaliatory nonsense and a lot more mindful parenting.