The "How To" of good anal sex

I have been asked many times now, after posting our first videos, of the way to go about getting that much pleasure and duration from anal sex.

So I thought that a blog, detailing procedures and processes that work for myself and Meg, might be of interest to the community in general.

It would also be a great spot for people to ask questions and have us answer them openly and honestly from the point of view of someone who has been doing this for decades, myself, and someone who has been recently introduced to the anal pleasures, amongst other pleasures, Meg.

Fisting, especially being fisted, is a personal favourite of mine.
It came about as a sort of natural progression as I just love stimulating women into intense orgasms, and loved using vibrators to assist.
When I introduced my first wife to this, and she shyly loved it and had a squirting orgasm, we started sharing fantasies, as I recommend all couples do, and she had a fantasy about fucking my arse with the vibrator.
I was only in my twenties at the time and knew nothing about anal, but trusted her and let her have her way.
It was sort of pleasant, but I wasn't clean, and it took 2 days for my arse to feel right again.

Time marches on and in my late 30's I discovered my prostate. The male G spot.
This came about through studying Tantric methods and always having sex before eating food, generally in the mornings when energies are high, and always having an enema so I would be absolutely clean inside and out.

And being so clean seemed to entice my partners to get very frisky in their sexual playing, with lots of head and arse play.
The turning point for me was when a girlfriend was scrubbing my back in the shower and payed particular attention to soaping my arse, then in my arse, and continuing to stimulate my arse.
Because I was clean in there and enjoyed stimulating my prostate I was happy to relax to her play and let her stimulate my prostate and stretch me a bit further each time I came, and came, and came....
Then she announced she had her whole hand in my arse, and fucked me to many intense orgasms until I didn't have the strength to stand in the shower.

And thats how it all began.

There is lots more to tell about techniques, muscle control, methods of cleaning out, and how to introduce and teach new fisters and fistees.
But maybe I will leave it off there and see if anyone is interested enough to ask questions.

For anyone contemplating fisting, especially anal fisting I must STRONGLY urge you to read a book called 'Trust, The Hand Book' by Bert Herrman "A Guide to the Sensual and Spiritual Art of Handballing"
It covers a lot of the energy and spiritual aspects but lacks the 'How to' instructions which I hope I can enlighten some interested people on the details.

I now throw this blog open and hope to get lots of questions.

Question 1: Cleaning out.
An enema is the starting point. This will leave you with a clean rectum so you can stimulate your prostate.
For women this can be enough for simple penis sex, although you will leak a small amount of stuff from your colon if you orgasm hard and often.
There are many vibrators and toys on the market specifically designed for mens prostate stimulation or you can just use your fingers.



Enema kits are available from most well stocked chemists or medical supply houses and an enema can take just a few minutes.



You will find, however, that as you relax your sphincter muscles, and especially if you let go to full pushing orgasms, that you will get stuff (i'll just call it stuff) push through from the colon, so you will end up a bit contaminated in the rectum.
Careful you don't continue as you may scratch the lining, and it wont feel as pleasant.
I find I can't continue as I get too self conscious about not being clean.

Disclaimer here: You are playing with a very sensitive area of your body and you can do irreparable harm if you are too rough or careless. Be gentle and do what feels nice.
In sharing this information I take no responsibility in any harm you may do.
I am only sharing my own journey and techniques that work for me.

As you probe your clean rectum you will find a deeper spot that feels very nice when stimulated.
This is the opening to the colon.
This muscle will not relax suitably for enjoyment if it has any 'stuff' in the colon it has to hang onto.
So a colonic is required to be able to do the sort of things Meg does to me in our videos and being able to insert that 50cm dildo all the way.
A good colonic can take time.
But if you want to play that deep then you need to start the day before.
This is my technique:
Fruit for lunch - stone fruit, nothing fibrous or seedy, pears, plums, peaches, apricots are all good.
Fast for the rest of the day, plenty of liquids, drink lots, apple juice is good.
No alcohol, or only in moderation, as it will slow digestion and dry out the linings.
Rise early and strong coffee (works for me) to get the bowels going, then straight into the shower.
We have a hose connected in the shower that allows a good flow of WARM water (it is pressure restricted)
So its a matter of gently filling with water and emptying.
There are lots of techniques and apparatus for Colonics and Google is your friend here. Find what works for you.
It can take some time in the shower, I have spent up to an hour, but that was sliding a forearms length of hose in and waiting till I was full, and gushing it out.

Then wait at least an hour while your colon absorbs the water you put in there that did not come out.
You will need to pee often and probably sit on the loo while a gallon of water gushes out.
But once done you are ready for deep play.

In our videos you can see me using that 50cm dildo and taking the whole thing.
But what you can't know is that when it comes out it smells of cum.
If you have any anal odour then you are not totally clean.
People think that because you arse play you are into the smell of shit, but nothing could be further from the truth.
I find any off odours a real turn off, and the muscles are not as relaxed and the whole anal fucking feels restricted and unfulfilling.
But when you are so clean your arse smells sweeter than a pussy, then the feeling is very different.

Lubrication:
Nearly every couple I watch doing anal seems to have their own version of lubrication.
From none visible, ouch, I don't know how they could do that, to handfuls of butter, or similar consistency lube, and everything in between.

It seems a very personal thing and its a matter of what works for you.

But a few pointers.

Water based lubes are always recommended for internal use, and are fine for a pussy which is designed to lubricate itself anyway.
But an arse is not designed to lubricate itself.
In fact it is designed to absorb water, so water based lubes quickly dry out and start become sticky, ruining the experience of having something large and slippery sliding in and out stimulating all those nice spots.
We have tried water based with additions of silicone and the like, designed for anal use, but found the additions cause sensitivity issues, and usually resulted in excess muscle contractions rather than relaxation and pushing.

Our personal preference is good old Olive Oil.
Once your lubed up it stays put and keeps everything sliding nicely along.
You will find that it mixes readily with the mucus of the anal tract and produces what we call arse cum.
Depending on the brand of oil, the colour can be from pure white to yellow.
You will see this being used in our videos.
And its a natural product that the body can absorb readily.

So the bottom line is (pun intended) use lots of lube for the best effect.
If you feel any dragging or pulling or 'ouch' factor, then add more lube.

Next - Muscle control:

Muscle control seems to fall into 2 categories, Passive and Pushing.

I have seen many fistees just relax and take 2 hands or even arms easily, but I don't see them having huge orgasms.
On the other hand the fistees that push are orgasming all over the place.



So naturally, if you want to try being fisted you will relax and let your fister do the work.
You may, or may not, be able to stretch those muscles that way.
But at some point you will feel a deep push start to happen.
Holding that push back is also holding back the orgasmic height that can happen.
It is the same as getting your woman to squirt.
Recipients have to have trust in you and enjoy what you are doing and be able to let go to the push and squirt freely.
If you haven't got your woman squirting then you need to. Really guys, you need to.

I am more pro-active in muscle control and find I need to consciously open the muscles.
When your fister is pushing in and pushes a muscle to its stretch limit in relax mode, push them out with those muscles that are stopping them.
Then relax those muscles without contracting them.
This will take a bit of practise.
Just remember you are clean in there and the pushing is just opening, there is nothing to come out.
The fister should hold position when they feel you push, and they will find they can go a bit further when you relax.
Keep this up until the hand slides right in.
Don't forget to keep the lube plentiful.

Fisters: As you insert more fingers, stretch them apart when you pull against the muscles.
This will get the pushing and opening of the sphincter muscles happening more readily.
Do remember to keep the pushing orgasms you create small to begin with or your Fistee will get too exhausted too quickly.
It is important that you never push against bone, as Fister, your job is to follow the soft muscular path in.
Once your hand is in you will find the area loose, like a playground, so you can play with gentle stimulation in there.
You have free access to the prostate and other glands and can generate orgasms at will.
But do let the fistee breath between orgasms.
When you feel the sphincter muscles contracting around your wrist, gently pull your hand against them, as if you are trying to pull your hand out, but don't.
Just the feel of the muscles being stretched from the inside should cause more pushing orgasms at which time you will feel the muscles open and you can slide your hand out, partially at first but eventually fully out and back in.
This is a good time to add more lube, but do stay in contact with the muscles as they will naturally start to contract if you withdraw your hand fully, and will need a bit of coaxing to open up again.
With practise you will be able to withdraw your clenched fist (fists are always made with the thumb in, fingers around the thumb), at first going back to open hand for insertion but eventually you will manage fist out, fist in.
Always be attentive to the state of relaxation of the muscles, for if you push too hard and cause an ouch moment, you will find most of the muscles instantly contract and you will have to start gently all over again.

This is basic fisting to the rectum.
But there is more :-)



As you create more and more ogasm's, as Fister you will notice you can get to the end of the rectum easily, and as you stimulate there your Fistee will have wilder and wilder orgasms.
What you are now feeling for is the next opening, which you will need to stimulate and coax the same way you coaxed the sphincter to open.
But as you do coax it to open and stretch it your Fistee will be having intense squirting orgasms, and probably not be able to breath.
Again, keep the orgasms small so your Fistee doesn't collapse too soon from over exertion.
Once you are through that muscle you can induce such intense orgasms that your Fistee will have 'out of body' type orgasms.
You are through the junction and into the sigmoid and descending colon.
The doctors can tell you all about the biology but they have no idea about the sensations.

Always remember Fister's, you have the Fistee's life in your hands.
This practise requires utmost trust.