How-To Guide for Men on How To Dominate a Woman in
"Gentle" Dominating
Push her against the wall/bed/floor/table. Hold down her wrists (above her head, behind her back, by her sides). Lean your weight against her to create the feeling like you are dominating her body. Push your knee between her legs and roughly spread them wide. "Spread wide for me, sweetheart."
Manhandle her. Put your hands all over her as if you can't get enough. Grab her breasts, squeeze her ass. Worship her. "God I love this hot/tight ass of yours". "This hot/tight ass of yours is all mine tonight." "You have the hottest/tightest little body ever." "Your body was made to be fucked by me."
Kiss her like you need it to breathe. Grab her chin and pull her mouth to yours, plunge your tongue in her mouth.
Run your fingers through her hair and pull gently. Tug her hair so that it forces her to look up at you, give her a sexy smirk, and kiss her roughly.
Grind your hips against her, let her feel your arousal pressed against her. "Can you feel how hard you make me?" "Fuck, you make me so hard." "I can't wait to shove this into that sweet pussy of yours." "God I need/want to be inside of you."
Getting more aggressive...
Light scratching: Use your fingernails and scratch along her back or lightly dig your nails into her ass.
Spanking: Slap her ass. Mix it up, don't just spank her a billion times: spank, rub it with the palm of your hand, grip it with your hand, slap it, etc. "I fucking love your tight little ass". "This beautiful ass is all mine...in fact I think I should leave a mark so you'll remember who it belongs to slap".
Biting: Bite her nipples, alternate with licking and swirling your tongue around the nipple.
Orgasm Denial: "Do you want to cum?", force her to say yes, then "I want to hear you beg for it." She begs. "Louder". She begs some more. "Good girl..." Proceed to make her come. Or tease her some more... "No I don't think I'll let you just yet..."
forced Orgasms: "I want you to cum NOW." "Come for me, baby." Proceed to make her cum after you say these things. After you've made her come, "Have you had enough?...I don't think you have. I want you to come again for me." "I want to feel you soak my fingers/cock/tongue with your delicious juices". "I fucking love making you come, I think I want to do it again..." Make her cum again.
Have sex with clothes on: Ideal if she's wearing a dress/skirt - hike up her dress and fuck her like that. If she has pants, rip them off roughly. Move her panties aside (but don't take them off!) and screw her like that. "Look how wet you're making your panties...what a dirty little slut you are."
Make her pleasure you: force her on her knees and suck you off. "Get on your knees now." "You're going to suck me until I'm satisfied." "Suck me with that talented little mouth of yours."
"****"/Light BDSM - So please, please tread carefully with this section, by "****" I mean CONSENSUAL non-consent, if at any time she says the safe word, STOP IMMEDIATELY. Pay attention to her body language - if it appears like she is not enjoying something or starting to hesitate, STOP IMMEDIATELY, ask her if everything is okay, MAKE SURE THINGS ARE ACTUALLY OKAY. Again, please DO NOT continue if you have any doubts whatsoever. Constantly monitor her and your actions throughout this - remember your boundaries, STICK TO THEM. If you are interested in these activities, find resources and do your research, consult BDSM subreddits. Please, please play safe!!
Gagging: Gag her with a piece of cloth, my personal favorite is when my boyfriend fucks me with my panties on, then takes them off, and shoves them in my mouth. (Because your mouth will be gagged, you must have a "safe gesture" as a sign to stop if things get too much.)
Bondage: Buy rope, tape, handcuffs, four-poster bed restraints, etc. OR improvise and substitute with a scarf or belt. Tie up her wrists behind her back (then force her to suck you off), tie her to the bed frame and tease her. Safety point: NEVER leave someone tied up alone in a room (if you need to leave to go to the bathroom or anything like that, make sure you can hear her if she calls out to you. NEVER LEAVE SOMEONE GAGGED AND TIED UP.).
Degrade her: Call her a dirty little slut/whore/cunt/bitch. "The only thing you're good for is to be fucked/satisfying me." Make her degrade herself "What are you?" "What are you good for?" "You're my slutty little whore. Say it." If she hesitates, punish her with a slap/spank. "Not fast/quick enough. Let's try again. (Repeat the question/your demand)." If you're satisfied, "Good girl" or "That's better." If not satisfied, punish her until she gets it right. Make her call you "Sir" or "Master". Punish her every time she forgets to refer to you as that.
In contrast to degradation: Praise her for satisfying you so well and being your "good little girl/slave". Tell her how pleased you are with her behavior and how good she's pleased you. Reward her.
Take control of blowjobs. When receiving a blowjob, instead of letting her do all the work, "face fuck" her. Grab the side of her head and push her down onto your cock. For beginners, don't push too far down. For more hardcore individuals, push her down until it reaches the back of her throat. Pull out, look her in the eye and smile while stroking her cheek. Then ram your cock back down her throat. Repeat until satisfied. "You should see how hot/slutty you look with my cock down your throat." For subs, make her do this on her knees. If she closes her eyes or looks down, tug at her hair or grab her chin so she's looking at you: "Eyes open/Look up, I want to see that pretty face of yours as you suck me."
Facials. "What a pretty face you have...I think I want to see it covered in my cum". "I'm going to cum all over that pretty face of yours." Once you've proceeded to unleash your load all over her face, smear some cum over her lips and get some on your fingers. Make her lick it off. Take a picture.
Sex toys! This could honestly be a thread in itself. Toys for bondage (i.e. rope, handcuffs, tape, blindfolds), spanking (i.e. whips, paddles - though you can easily substitute with household items, things like rulers, the back of a hair brush, a cooking spoon, a belt, etc), vibrators, anal toys, dildos.
Take control of her masturbation. force her to touch herself but make it clear that she is NOT allowed to bring herself to orgasm. Get a remote controlled vibrator. Tie her up and use it on her - control the settings: bring her to the brink, then stop it. "How badly do you want to cum right now?" "Give me a good reason to let you come (let her stammer out some answer)...not good enough."
Submission. Make her wear a collar. Tell her she can only move on her hands and knees unless you give her permission. Command her in all aspects (i.e. "I want your eyes lowered unless I say otherwise." "Look at me only when I speak to you." "I want you naked for the rest of the night, is that clear? Now strip") Make her confirm your dominance: After each command: "Do you understand me?" "Are you going to obey like a good little slave?" Make her thank you after performing certain tasks, this is especially fun in terms of punishment: "I want you to thank me every time I slap you, do you understand?" Reinforce your punishments "You know why you're being punished don't you?" (Make her give you the reason) "That's right, because you were a disobedient little bitch. Now are you going to do better next time?"
More intense "****" play: Shove her face down into a pillow while you take her from behind. Hold her down by firmly pressing your palm to her back, or twist her wrists behind her back. Pull on her hair (again while in doggy style).
Slap her across the face: Slap her face with your hand (or cock), alternate with tender cheek cupping between slaps. Slaps can also be used as punishment (aside from the usual spanking): slap "Don't disobey me again."slap.
Choking: Place your hands around her neck and squeeze lightly - never squeeze for too long, and make sure to constantly monitor her to ensure that she can breathe properly!! Please NEVER put direct pressure on the front of the throat (trachea area). Use light pressure with your fingers or thumb along the side. PLEASE PLEASE research breath play if you are interested in this - I cannot stress the importance of safety, there are MAJOR risks engaging in this activity and it is not something that should be experimented with without knowing how to go about it!!
Make her clean you up after you cum: If you cum on your stomach, make her lick it up. "Make sure you lick it clean like a good slut, don't waste a single drop of cum." Or if you cum in her mouth: "Make sure you swallow every drop of cum I give you." Reward her with a kiss or glide a finger against her lips once she's swallowed: "Good girl." "You're such a cum-loving little whore." Lastly, demand that she cleans your cock after she "made a mess by dripping her pussy juices all over it." (Not a good idea after anal play for obvious reasons - instead, wipe your cock across her breasts/stomach)
Make her taste herself: After you finger her put your finger in her mouth, more fingers to add a bit of choking effect.
Adding one thing to spice it up even when you're NOT in the bedroom.
Leave some nice hickies on her body. "I'm going to mark you so you remember who you/this body belongs to."
If you had sex with her panties on, after you're done, pull up her panties tight into her crotch and run your fingers down the outline of her slit. Tell her she's going to wear the panties for the rest of the day so she can remember what a dirty/good little slut she's been. Tell her you WILL BE checking that she obeyed when you see her later tonight, and if you found out that she didn't keep them on, you will be punishing her. Make sure you do this when you/she gets home from work. Praise her for being such an obedient girl when you see that she still has them on.
For those who are not into the whole degradation scene but who are still exploring their submissive side: Not all submission is to do with "naughty/bad" stereotypes; in fact there's a fully parallel stream that is "noble submission," that is, submission as a vaunted and praised act. Every thing I do to submit is because I am a good partner, not a bad/dirty one.
Aftercare: Many of these sessions can be mentally (not only physically) exhausting and draining. So please take care of your girl after - make sure she's okay, ask what things she DID NOT like (as well as things she did like), make sure you did not overstep your boundaries. Hug her, kiss her, hold her, cuddle her, tell her you love her, tell her how lucky you feel that she trusts you enough with taking control, etc, etc.
Push her against the wall/bed/floor/table. Hold down her wrists (above her head, behind her back, by her sides). Lean your weight against her to create the feeling like you are dominating her body. Push your knee between her legs and roughly spread them wide. "Spread wide for me, sweetheart."
Manhandle her. Put your hands all over her as if you can't get enough. Grab her breasts, squeeze her ass. Worship her. "God I love this hot/tight ass of yours". "This hot/tight ass of yours is all mine tonight." "You have the hottest/tightest little body ever." "Your body was made to be fucked by me."
Kiss her like you need it to breathe. Grab her chin and pull her mouth to yours, plunge your tongue in her mouth.
Run your fingers through her hair and pull gently. Tug her hair so that it forces her to look up at you, give her a sexy smirk, and kiss her roughly.
Grind your hips against her, let her feel your arousal pressed against her. "Can you feel how hard you make me?" "Fuck, you make me so hard." "I can't wait to shove this into that sweet pussy of yours." "God I need/want to be inside of you."
Getting more aggressive...
Light scratching: Use your fingernails and scratch along her back or lightly dig your nails into her ass.
Spanking: Slap her ass. Mix it up, don't just spank her a billion times: spank, rub it with the palm of your hand, grip it with your hand, slap it, etc. "I fucking love your tight little ass". "This beautiful ass is all mine...in fact I think I should leave a mark so you'll remember who it belongs to slap".
Biting: Bite her nipples, alternate with licking and swirling your tongue around the nipple.
Orgasm Denial: "Do you want to cum?", force her to say yes, then "I want to hear you beg for it." She begs. "Louder". She begs some more. "Good girl..." Proceed to make her come. Or tease her some more... "No I don't think I'll let you just yet..."
forced Orgasms: "I want you to cum NOW." "Come for me, baby." Proceed to make her cum after you say these things. After you've made her come, "Have you had enough?...I don't think you have. I want you to come again for me." "I want to feel you soak my fingers/cock/tongue with your delicious juices". "I fucking love making you come, I think I want to do it again..." Make her cum again.
Have sex with clothes on: Ideal if she's wearing a dress/skirt - hike up her dress and fuck her like that. If she has pants, rip them off roughly. Move her panties aside (but don't take them off!) and screw her like that. "Look how wet you're making your panties...what a dirty little slut you are."
Make her pleasure you: force her on her knees and suck you off. "Get on your knees now." "You're going to suck me until I'm satisfied." "Suck me with that talented little mouth of yours."
"****"/Light BDSM - So please, please tread carefully with this section, by "****" I mean CONSENSUAL non-consent, if at any time she says the safe word, STOP IMMEDIATELY. Pay attention to her body language - if it appears like she is not enjoying something or starting to hesitate, STOP IMMEDIATELY, ask her if everything is okay, MAKE SURE THINGS ARE ACTUALLY OKAY. Again, please DO NOT continue if you have any doubts whatsoever. Constantly monitor her and your actions throughout this - remember your boundaries, STICK TO THEM. If you are interested in these activities, find resources and do your research, consult BDSM subreddits. Please, please play safe!!
Gagging: Gag her with a piece of cloth, my personal favorite is when my boyfriend fucks me with my panties on, then takes them off, and shoves them in my mouth. (Because your mouth will be gagged, you must have a "safe gesture" as a sign to stop if things get too much.)
Bondage: Buy rope, tape, handcuffs, four-poster bed restraints, etc. OR improvise and substitute with a scarf or belt. Tie up her wrists behind her back (then force her to suck you off), tie her to the bed frame and tease her. Safety point: NEVER leave someone tied up alone in a room (if you need to leave to go to the bathroom or anything like that, make sure you can hear her if she calls out to you. NEVER LEAVE SOMEONE GAGGED AND TIED UP.).
Degrade her: Call her a dirty little slut/whore/cunt/bitch. "The only thing you're good for is to be fucked/satisfying me." Make her degrade herself "What are you?" "What are you good for?" "You're my slutty little whore. Say it." If she hesitates, punish her with a slap/spank. "Not fast/quick enough. Let's try again. (Repeat the question/your demand)." If you're satisfied, "Good girl" or "That's better." If not satisfied, punish her until she gets it right. Make her call you "Sir" or "Master". Punish her every time she forgets to refer to you as that.
In contrast to degradation: Praise her for satisfying you so well and being your "good little girl/slave". Tell her how pleased you are with her behavior and how good she's pleased you. Reward her.
Take control of blowjobs. When receiving a blowjob, instead of letting her do all the work, "face fuck" her. Grab the side of her head and push her down onto your cock. For beginners, don't push too far down. For more hardcore individuals, push her down until it reaches the back of her throat. Pull out, look her in the eye and smile while stroking her cheek. Then ram your cock back down her throat. Repeat until satisfied. "You should see how hot/slutty you look with my cock down your throat." For subs, make her do this on her knees. If she closes her eyes or looks down, tug at her hair or grab her chin so she's looking at you: "Eyes open/Look up, I want to see that pretty face of yours as you suck me."
Facials. "What a pretty face you have...I think I want to see it covered in my cum". "I'm going to cum all over that pretty face of yours." Once you've proceeded to unleash your load all over her face, smear some cum over her lips and get some on your fingers. Make her lick it off. Take a picture.
Sex toys! This could honestly be a thread in itself. Toys for bondage (i.e. rope, handcuffs, tape, blindfolds), spanking (i.e. whips, paddles - though you can easily substitute with household items, things like rulers, the back of a hair brush, a cooking spoon, a belt, etc), vibrators, anal toys, dildos.
Take control of her masturbation. force her to touch herself but make it clear that she is NOT allowed to bring herself to orgasm. Get a remote controlled vibrator. Tie her up and use it on her - control the settings: bring her to the brink, then stop it. "How badly do you want to cum right now?" "Give me a good reason to let you come (let her stammer out some answer)...not good enough."
Submission. Make her wear a collar. Tell her she can only move on her hands and knees unless you give her permission. Command her in all aspects (i.e. "I want your eyes lowered unless I say otherwise." "Look at me only when I speak to you." "I want you naked for the rest of the night, is that clear? Now strip") Make her confirm your dominance: After each command: "Do you understand me?" "Are you going to obey like a good little slave?" Make her thank you after performing certain tasks, this is especially fun in terms of punishment: "I want you to thank me every time I slap you, do you understand?" Reinforce your punishments "You know why you're being punished don't you?" (Make her give you the reason) "That's right, because you were a disobedient little bitch. Now are you going to do better next time?"
More intense "****" play: Shove her face down into a pillow while you take her from behind. Hold her down by firmly pressing your palm to her back, or twist her wrists behind her back. Pull on her hair (again while in doggy style).
Slap her across the face: Slap her face with your hand (or cock), alternate with tender cheek cupping between slaps. Slaps can also be used as punishment (aside from the usual spanking): slap "Don't disobey me again."slap.
Choking: Place your hands around her neck and squeeze lightly - never squeeze for too long, and make sure to constantly monitor her to ensure that she can breathe properly!! Please NEVER put direct pressure on the front of the throat (trachea area). Use light pressure with your fingers or thumb along the side. PLEASE PLEASE research breath play if you are interested in this - I cannot stress the importance of safety, there are MAJOR risks engaging in this activity and it is not something that should be experimented with without knowing how to go about it!!
Make her clean you up after you cum: If you cum on your stomach, make her lick it up. "Make sure you lick it clean like a good slut, don't waste a single drop of cum." Or if you cum in her mouth: "Make sure you swallow every drop of cum I give you." Reward her with a kiss or glide a finger against her lips once she's swallowed: "Good girl." "You're such a cum-loving little whore." Lastly, demand that she cleans your cock after she "made a mess by dripping her pussy juices all over it." (Not a good idea after anal play for obvious reasons - instead, wipe your cock across her breasts/stomach)
Make her taste herself: After you finger her put your finger in her mouth, more fingers to add a bit of choking effect.
Adding one thing to spice it up even when you're NOT in the bedroom.
Leave some nice hickies on her body. "I'm going to mark you so you remember who you/this body belongs to."
If you had sex with her panties on, after you're done, pull up her panties tight into her crotch and run your fingers down the outline of her slit. Tell her she's going to wear the panties for the rest of the day so she can remember what a dirty/good little slut she's been. Tell her you WILL BE checking that she obeyed when you see her later tonight, and if you found out that she didn't keep them on, you will be punishing her. Make sure you do this when you/she gets home from work. Praise her for being such an obedient girl when you see that she still has them on.
For those who are not into the whole degradation scene but who are still exploring their submissive side: Not all submission is to do with "naughty/bad" stereotypes; in fact there's a fully parallel stream that is "noble submission," that is, submission as a vaunted and praised act. Every thing I do to submit is because I am a good partner, not a bad/dirty one.
Aftercare: Many of these sessions can be mentally (not only physically) exhausting and draining. So please take care of your girl after - make sure she's okay, ask what things she DID NOT like (as well as things she did like), make sure you did not overstep your boundaries. Hug her, kiss her, hold her, cuddle her, tell her you love her, tell her how lucky you feel that she trusts you enough with taking control, etc, etc.
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