Misconceptions People Still Have About Foreplay

What even is foreplay? If you don’t know this, you need to find out right now. Foreplay is every little tease and move you make to increase sexual arousal. It came as a surprise to me this weekend to find out that there are people- people that have been having sex for years, let me add- that still don’t know the definition of foreplay or that these few misconceptions I’m about to tell you about are wrong.

Misconception #1:

Not having foreplay is okay. I recently sat horrified at a party while a guy spoke about how he hates foreplay and how he just likes to “get on with it”. He then tried to hit on me. Boys, let me tell you that that is the worst possible pick up line you can feed a woman. Why is not having foreplay not okay? Well because unfortunately life is not like a romantic comedy, and chances are if you just dive in she will not only not be wet enough, but won’t get where she needs to go.

Misconception #2:

Foreplay starts just before sex and has a time limit – What’s confusing about the definition of foreplay is that it’s not straight forward. Foreplay can mean many things. It can mean setting the mood, undressing each other, nibbling on her earlobe, tickling her behind the knees or just making out for a little bit. What’s great about foreplay is that it can start anywhere – in the bar, at a party, take advantage of the fact that you have someone with whom you can be annoyingly giggly and kissy with on the way home. Also, foreplay should go on until you both feel like you’re ready, whether that mean for a short amount of time or a long amount of time- in this moment, the time should not feeling like it’s ticking, gentlemen.

Misconception #3:

You should only focus on the vagina during foreplay – Absolutely not. Most women don’t even orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone. I can’t tell you how many times people forget the other various sensitive areas you should be kissing- neck, ears, and especially her breasts. Do not forget to pay the twins some attention.

Misconception #4:

Foreplay is only for when you’re about to have sex – Don’t be boring and predictable. Kick it up a notch. If you’re not coming up behind her and kissing her neck just for fun, you need to start doing that because you don’t want your relationship to start getting stale, do you? I’m definitely an advocate for foreplay all day, everyday.