Fucking an inexperienced mouth -- the right way
I'm a guy with a cock, so I like cumming in girl's mouths. and since I'm a bisexual guy, I like cumming in guy's mouths, too. And I'm pretty good at getting a guy to cum in my mouth, which is just as hot, or hotter.
Cock sucking is just about every girl's first sexual experience, and more guys' than are willing to admit it. So you'd think it would be a universal pleasure, but there are plenty of people who hate having a cock in their mouth, and that's sad.
Not too long ago, A girlfriend and I teamed up with a young couple. They were pretty turned on at first, but the girl got jealous when she saw her boyfriend's cock in my girls hand, and she left, but the boy stayed, and while everybody got off multiple times, the highpoint was getting the guy to suck a cock for the first time. It had to have been weird for him, but I also know it was a very pleasurable experience for him, and something I'm sure he'll keep craving. And you always want to leave a mouth happy, so other men can enjoy it after you do.
A lot of people, more women than men, it seems, have had bad experiences with oral, like guys with no self-control jamming the dick in too fast, cumming without warning them, or being abusive and humiliating to them. And unless the cocksucker is specifically turned on by those things, they can scare off a potentially talented cocksucker.
Here are a couple of pointers for enjoying an inexperienced mouth and making it WANT to become more experienced (and most of these apply to both male and female mouths).
1. They should be really turned on first. for girls especially, this means a lot of foreplay. The more scary a new sex act is, the more really horny they have to be to override their resistance. But arousal will get straight folks to surrender to gay sex, gay folks surrendering to straight sex, and S&M people to crave more intense pain and pleasure play. So take your time and really turn up their heat. And DO NOT let the guy come before you've make him suck your cock to completion. Once he squirts, he'll lose the arousal. Girls are a little different-- they can be seduced this way, but if a girl usually comes a lot, orgasms will open her up even more pleasure. Some girls are like guys though, one orgasm and they're out.
2. Control your cock. When it's time to penetrate the mouth, be slow and gentle. The biggest fear about fellatio is choking. Even if you don't think you have a big cock, it will look huge to an inexperienced mouth. At the same time, be firm and confident, reassure them that it WILL happen and that they WILL enjoy it. Young guys often surrender to the instinct to push the cock into the mouth as deep as they can, or just start fucking it, and that is usually the worst thing to do. Control it!
3. In the mouth. once you've gotten the head in, give them a second to get used to it. It's not just a thing you put in their mouth for a few minutes, you've changed their life--you've just made them a "cock sucker," even if nothing else happens. At the same time, cocksucking is instinctive, for both boys and girls. I discovered pretty early on, that if you could get this far into a girl's mouth, and just held it there without pushing or anything stressful for her, and not letting her take it out, as soon as she relaxed, the sucking would start automatically. And this has been true for a lot of guys I've done as well.
Once they realize they aren't going to choke and the cock isn't going to go anywhere or do anything they don't want it to, they'll feel comfortable exploring and finding out how to give pleasure.
4. Giving pleasure gives sexual pleasure. It's automatic. We get turned on just jerking off a hot guy or girl, don't we? Once they start to willingly suck, MAKE NOISE! Give feedback. Let then know you're getting pleasure and it will encourage them.
5. Give them control. A lot of the pleasure of oral sex is the control we get over the person we're sucking. Give the mouth the pleasure of controlling you arousal (and orgasm) with feedback; "ohhh yes.." or "good, but don't use your teeth!"
6. Ejaculating. While I think everyone loves coming inside a pretty face, it can be the scariest part of giving head, so give your cocksucker plenty of warning. If they know it's coming, they won't be afraid, and many even look forward to it. And if it's their first time. try to come fairly fast. A few minutes is great the first time, but if you make them work too long, you'll undo all the positive seduction you've done so far. They'll lose their arousal. Next time, they'll suck for longer, and may even want to make you wait.
Realistically, condoms are always important, and also reassuring for a first timer, so seriously, use them.
At the same time, if you're both comfortable going bareback, it's a lot more pleasurable for the one being sucked, and I think it's psychologically important for the cocksucker to take it in the mouth and if possible, swallow it. It marks a permanent change to their sexuality, especially for guys.
7. What to say. When my girlfriend and I were coaxing this young guy to completion, I told him I was going to cum in about 30 seconds, and she coaxed him through that by repeating "suck and swallow, suck and swallow..." and he began to do just that, so when I began squirting in his mouth it all went down very easily. I tried it with a girl more recently, and it seemed to work well (though she was already a pretty good cocksucker).
After feeding straight guys, I used to remind them that this was just some fun, and it won't make them gay, or change them in any way, even if they want to do it again. My girlfriend, on the other hand, who's more of a dominating bitch, kept "reassuring" the guy that now he'd sucked cock (and then let me suck him off), he's made a permanent sexual change, and that the sperm in his belly was making a permanent chemical change to his sexuality, and it would become obvious to him over the next week or two, even if he still craved pussy. I don't know which approach is better, but I do know there is a kind of a change that you feel after you've crossed the bi-line.
8. Finally, after all of that, give him or her some really great oral sex, to show you respect them. If you don't reciprocate, some people will feel used and ashamed, and no matter how much fun they had sucking you off, won't want to do it again for you or other cocks.
9. Some people just like it rougher. They get turned on by dominance and humiliation. All of the above works with, maybe 85% of the people you'll meet, but some people like it rough, in which case, most of the gentle stuff above will turn them off. They WANT to be forced, gagged, humiliated, etc. They'll usually make it clear that they like it rough, but never assume that they do unless they make it clear. And even if they do, it's hard to know HOW rough, until you know them pretty well. I think it's best to play it safe, and go easy.
I hope that is useful. Please give me feedback and feel free to share it.
Cock sucking is just about every girl's first sexual experience, and more guys' than are willing to admit it. So you'd think it would be a universal pleasure, but there are plenty of people who hate having a cock in their mouth, and that's sad.
Not too long ago, A girlfriend and I teamed up with a young couple. They were pretty turned on at first, but the girl got jealous when she saw her boyfriend's cock in my girls hand, and she left, but the boy stayed, and while everybody got off multiple times, the highpoint was getting the guy to suck a cock for the first time. It had to have been weird for him, but I also know it was a very pleasurable experience for him, and something I'm sure he'll keep craving. And you always want to leave a mouth happy, so other men can enjoy it after you do.
A lot of people, more women than men, it seems, have had bad experiences with oral, like guys with no self-control jamming the dick in too fast, cumming without warning them, or being abusive and humiliating to them. And unless the cocksucker is specifically turned on by those things, they can scare off a potentially talented cocksucker.
Here are a couple of pointers for enjoying an inexperienced mouth and making it WANT to become more experienced (and most of these apply to both male and female mouths).
1. They should be really turned on first. for girls especially, this means a lot of foreplay. The more scary a new sex act is, the more really horny they have to be to override their resistance. But arousal will get straight folks to surrender to gay sex, gay folks surrendering to straight sex, and S&M people to crave more intense pain and pleasure play. So take your time and really turn up their heat. And DO NOT let the guy come before you've make him suck your cock to completion. Once he squirts, he'll lose the arousal. Girls are a little different-- they can be seduced this way, but if a girl usually comes a lot, orgasms will open her up even more pleasure. Some girls are like guys though, one orgasm and they're out.
2. Control your cock. When it's time to penetrate the mouth, be slow and gentle. The biggest fear about fellatio is choking. Even if you don't think you have a big cock, it will look huge to an inexperienced mouth. At the same time, be firm and confident, reassure them that it WILL happen and that they WILL enjoy it. Young guys often surrender to the instinct to push the cock into the mouth as deep as they can, or just start fucking it, and that is usually the worst thing to do. Control it!
3. In the mouth. once you've gotten the head in, give them a second to get used to it. It's not just a thing you put in their mouth for a few minutes, you've changed their life--you've just made them a "cock sucker," even if nothing else happens. At the same time, cocksucking is instinctive, for both boys and girls. I discovered pretty early on, that if you could get this far into a girl's mouth, and just held it there without pushing or anything stressful for her, and not letting her take it out, as soon as she relaxed, the sucking would start automatically. And this has been true for a lot of guys I've done as well.
Once they realize they aren't going to choke and the cock isn't going to go anywhere or do anything they don't want it to, they'll feel comfortable exploring and finding out how to give pleasure.
4. Giving pleasure gives sexual pleasure. It's automatic. We get turned on just jerking off a hot guy or girl, don't we? Once they start to willingly suck, MAKE NOISE! Give feedback. Let then know you're getting pleasure and it will encourage them.
5. Give them control. A lot of the pleasure of oral sex is the control we get over the person we're sucking. Give the mouth the pleasure of controlling you arousal (and orgasm) with feedback; "ohhh yes.." or "good, but don't use your teeth!"
6. Ejaculating. While I think everyone loves coming inside a pretty face, it can be the scariest part of giving head, so give your cocksucker plenty of warning. If they know it's coming, they won't be afraid, and many even look forward to it. And if it's their first time. try to come fairly fast. A few minutes is great the first time, but if you make them work too long, you'll undo all the positive seduction you've done so far. They'll lose their arousal. Next time, they'll suck for longer, and may even want to make you wait.
Realistically, condoms are always important, and also reassuring for a first timer, so seriously, use them.
At the same time, if you're both comfortable going bareback, it's a lot more pleasurable for the one being sucked, and I think it's psychologically important for the cocksucker to take it in the mouth and if possible, swallow it. It marks a permanent change to their sexuality, especially for guys.
7. What to say. When my girlfriend and I were coaxing this young guy to completion, I told him I was going to cum in about 30 seconds, and she coaxed him through that by repeating "suck and swallow, suck and swallow..." and he began to do just that, so when I began squirting in his mouth it all went down very easily. I tried it with a girl more recently, and it seemed to work well (though she was already a pretty good cocksucker).
After feeding straight guys, I used to remind them that this was just some fun, and it won't make them gay, or change them in any way, even if they want to do it again. My girlfriend, on the other hand, who's more of a dominating bitch, kept "reassuring" the guy that now he'd sucked cock (and then let me suck him off), he's made a permanent sexual change, and that the sperm in his belly was making a permanent chemical change to his sexuality, and it would become obvious to him over the next week or two, even if he still craved pussy. I don't know which approach is better, but I do know there is a kind of a change that you feel after you've crossed the bi-line.
8. Finally, after all of that, give him or her some really great oral sex, to show you respect them. If you don't reciprocate, some people will feel used and ashamed, and no matter how much fun they had sucking you off, won't want to do it again for you or other cocks.
9. Some people just like it rougher. They get turned on by dominance and humiliation. All of the above works with, maybe 85% of the people you'll meet, but some people like it rough, in which case, most of the gentle stuff above will turn them off. They WANT to be forced, gagged, humiliated, etc. They'll usually make it clear that they like it rough, but never assume that they do unless they make it clear. And even if they do, it's hard to know HOW rough, until you know them pretty well. I think it's best to play it safe, and go easy.
I hope that is useful. Please give me feedback and feel free to share it.
9 years ago